Discipline Children - How to Stop Their Bad Behavior Permanently

If you have tried your very best to discipline children and their bad behavior just continues on, then welcome to the world of parenting. You are not alone on this and almost every parent has the same responsibilities and issues. What you must understand is that bad behavior in children is not a failure on your part as a parent - it is not your fault. These behavioral problems generally cease after a while or can be fixed with some simple disciplinary actions.

Every child development and parenting book ever published have warned about children who when reaching 18 months old, start to test you by throwing tantrums, being bossy as well as ignoring you when you call them. I'm sure it's super-frustrating as a parent to have to experience this but you have to look at this positively and not let it affect you too much. When children start this cycle of their life and throw tantrums plus all the above, it is actually a developmental growing period for them and this is where they learn right from wrong, and what your limits really mean. Kids need to find out how far they can push you, and also how far they can go - these limits are important for them.

You will want to also discipline children before they reach the age of 2 so even though they will break out in a tantrum once in a while, it won't be too severe and won't happen too often. Getting this under control before they reach two years just means you will most likely have an easier time as they grow older.

So how do you discipline children the right way? Try this method the next time. Say for example your child keeps climbing on the coffee and you have told her not to. She still does it. The best thing to do is take the table away and put it on the other side of the house. If she refuses to wear her jacket after you have asked her nicely, just hold her firmly and put it on for her, all this without raising your voice, without talking to her or showing her any signs of affection. If she starts crying and screaming, simply ignore it and act as if you're not bothered even a bit by her tantrums.

After a while, the tantrums will stop (they do get tired screaming non-stop), and through repetition, children learn that there's a limit to what they're allowed to do and that you do mean business.

Another way to discipline children and get them to do what you want them to do is by letting them make one of two choices, with either choice resulting in the same end result (what you want them to do). For instance, if it's cold outside and you want your kid to put on a hat but refuses, instead of saying "Do you want to put on a hat?", try "Which hat do you want to put on, the red or the green one?" 9 out of 10 times, the child would get misdirected and not put up a fight, because she thinks that she called the shots.

You see, kids that age are trying to gain their independence. It is at this age that they lack the ability to communicate effectively. They want to be like us adults but they can't, and this frustrates them. With patience and persistence with these methods, your efforts will pay off big-time down the track.

Amy is an author for several online publications and blogs. She writes frequently on advise columns within the categories of women's interests, health & fitness and children's issues. She's also recently written some home-ware articles about electronic kitchen scales and salter kitchen scales

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