It can very hard for parents to admit that parenting is an extremely hard job. What makes it even more challenging is that our role as a parent is the most important job that any adult will ever have. For nurturing the development of a child is a long term investment, an investment in which no one is really taught how to handle (or what to expect).
In order to be a good parent you must learn some important things. In order to become a good parent you will need to watch closely, learn an how to give effective directions, and how to listen to you child. I know this may sound odd, but it is when a child is 3-6 that is the best time to start instilling in them coping strategies, problem solving skills, manners, and the ability to share with others.
Depending on your age, there were a variety of techniques and discipline methods that were openly used and acceptable. Unfortunately, (or fortunately depending on how you look at it) out parents used to give an old fashioned spanking to discipline us. But in this day, we are not allowed to do that, and they truth of the matter is...physical punishments did not work then, and they still do not work now.
What physical punishments teach is that when I am bigger and stronger than you I can control your behavior by physically bullying you. Children continue this cycle by repeating what was done to them, and that is the danger with the physical punishment. In the short term it "appears" to work, but in the long run it only teaches children how to solve problems through using physical violence.
That is why when ever your 3-6 year old is doing something inappropriately, or doing things wrong, it is important to point them in another direction. Only when the child learns what to do and how to do it, will the child become able follow directions and behave appropriately.
Do you want to learn exactly how to eliminate your child's out-of-control and defiant behavior without using Punishments, Time-Outs, Behavioral Plans, or Rewards?
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Jason Johnson (MSW) has spent many years working with hundreds of challenging toddlers through teenagers diagnosed with A.D.H.D, Oppositional Defiance Disorder, Conduct Disorder, Aspergers Syndrome, and Bi-polar. Jason works with boys and girls (ages 2-19) with SEVERE emotional/behavioral issue from various ethnic backgrounds, races, and religions.
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